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Have You Reached The Limits of “Romanticity”?

How romantic are you? Does your wife or your girlfriend tell you that you do not give enough importance to her anymore? Does she tell you that you don’t care for her anymore? People have been warning you that things change after you are married. Did it really happen to you, unknowingly, inadvertently? If you still wish to bring that spark to your relationship, try these tips.

Hugs and kisses – How often do your partner tell you that you touch her only for intimate relationships? Do you hug and kiss her every day without meaning to be sensual? When you leave for work in the morning and when you return in the evening, she expects you to hug her or at least kiss her. When did you last do that to her? It still works and it is a good stimulant for you too.

I love you – These words are spoken between people who love each other. Once you are married, you don’t have to say it because – you are married, you are supposed to understand that I love you. That’s a wrong assumption men make, but women need to be told that you love them. Okay, you don’t have to tell her I love you each time you pick up the phone but say it often and mean it, especially when you are away from home. Though your wife or girlfriend doesn’t have to be reminded that you love her, these three words are magic and the peace they give is enormous. You might be a hard worker, you bring money home, food on the table and good education for the kids, but nothing can be a better substitute to the three magical words.

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Be a sounding board – Men are supposed to listen, not give advises  When your wife/girlfriend comes in and rants about her boss and how impractical he has become, you are not expected to give advises  just listen. That is the best antidote for her stress. If you give advice, she will think that you don’t think her capable of solving her own problems and that will make her even more mad. Just sit with her, hold her hand and LISTEN. She just wants to know that you are with her, you understand and relate to her problems. No solutions, please.

In the bedroom – Women like men to be slow when you get intimate, unless you have been away for a long time and the two of you just cannot wait to grab at each other. It takes almost 10-15 minutes for a woman to warm up and you have to devote enough time for foreplay. Talking with her is also important. But, instead of talking about what the neighbor did to your dog, you must indulge in sweet endearments. Make her feel beautiful and attractive. And on certain nights, concentrate only on her pleasures and desires instead of reciprocation. It will make her feel very, very special.

Compliments – Shower her with compliments when she least expect it. It could be her cooking, the way she keeps the house, the children or her attire, but compliments they should be. When she asks that sure question “How do I look?” when you are getting ready for a party, you know what to tell her.